A divorce can be resolved in a variety of ways. One of the options that many divorced couples choose to pursue is mediation. If you are considering this resolution method, you need to make sure that you are prepared for the first meeting. You might be surprised by how much you will be able to cover in a session.
For the most part, mediation sessions will revolve around three main points: property division, financial support and child custody. You might need more than one mediation session to work through everything, but it is best to prepare as if you will only have a single session.
Gather any important documents
You will likely have a bigger set of documents for property division than what you will have for other aspects of the divorce. You should gather things like bank account statements, credit card bills, investment paperwork and proof of assets. All of these can help as you work through divvying up the property with your ex.
When it comes to financial support, proof of income might help. You should also bring in copies of any expenses you have already had to cover that should have been split up. Things like joint credit accounts or mortgages that you’ve paid might need to be included.
For child custody matters, you might need to bring documents related to the child’s schooling or health care. These might be important to show that the child has special considerations that must be taken into account.
Decide where to spend your energy
You aren’t likely going to get everything that you want in the divorce settlement. Instead of focusing on everything, decide what is worth fighting for. Make a list and write it out so that you have something to refer to when you are in the middle of the mediation session. When you are making the list, try not to focus only on emotional ties to specific items. Instead, look at the practical aspects of the things that you need to work through.
While you are in a mediation session, there is a chance that your ex might try to rile you up. You can’t let this happen. Try to stay calm. You can ask to speak to the mediator alone if you need. The mediator is there to keep things on the right track. Just remember that once the divorce is over, contact with your ex will be limited or non-existent.