Military divorces are often challenging because they involve a host of issues. One of the issues that must be considered when you are going through a military divorce is child custody.
As anyone who has served knows, it isn’t always possible to stick to a set schedule. Having to stand duty and change schedules according to the needs of the military are just facts of life. This can make coming up with a child custody schedule difficult. Fortunately, you can use certain strategies to make the child custody agreement a bit easier to reach.
Think outside of the box
You will likely need a very flexible child custody agreement. This might mean that you have to let your ex know your schedule as soon as you find it out and then the two of you work out the child custody schedule from there. While this might seem tedious, it is sometimes the best way to help ensure the child has a meaningful relationship with both parents.
It usually isn’t possible for a military member to just pick up the phone for every personal phone call while they are duty. Instead of trying to do this, you should make yourself available when you aren’t at work. This could make it much easier for you to have contact with your child when you aren’t able to see your son or daughter in person.
Plan for distance
During deployments or if you aren’t living close to your child, you need to find other ways to have a relationship. This could mean using virtual visitation. Using technology, such as video chats, you can still be a part of your child’s life even if you are halfway across the world. You will have to make plans for these visits at a time when it is convenient for your child, so be sure that you take time zone difference into account when you are planning your visits.
If you and your ex are willing and able to work as a team for your child’s sake, you will likely find that the child custody matters are a lot easier to deal with. This isn’t always easy, but it usually helps the child to enjoy both parents. One way that you can make this a bit easier is to have a concise agreement that clearly spells out what is expected to happen with anything related to child custody.